"That is an awful long time to beat around the bush," Irhya agrees reluctantly, "but is it not also possible he did all of that because he knew you wouldn't take it seriously? That there was safety in normalcy? And now that you've gone out of your way and done something out of the ordinary--" she gestures strongly, "that it's disrupted the whole routine?"

Or maybe she's just thinking too deeply about it all. Either way, it may be worth asking the man himself about it, or at least offering him an apology for her part. In retrospect, perhaps it was an insensitive move to make.